What does an effective therapist do?

An effective therapist can change someone’s life and even save it. Effective therapists possess great people skills, which their training develops and enhances. Naturally good at building relationships, they have an immediate impact on the people they meet. Their self-belief, confidence and presence remove the doubts and fears someone brings into therapy. And their appreciation for and acceptance of their clients – no matter their identity, gender, age, sexuality, ethnicity – creates a powerful professional bond. Effective therapy is a flexible, problem-solving process that is never about the therapist and always about the client.

In this blog, we look in more detail at some aspects of effective therapy.

An effective therapist gives someone a Conversation With Impact

When someone is sat in front of a therapist, they are making a statement about their existing conversations. They are saying: ‘My existing conversations are not making the difference I am after. They are missing something crucial.’ The instruction couldn’t be clearer to a therapist: find what is missing.

An effective therapist finds the missing qualities, liberating a client to speak uninhibited and without fear of judgement. This allows a client to distinguish the therapeutic relationship from their other relationships. This sets up a virtuous circle. Instead of dreading yet another conversation that can’t or won’t help, effective therapy quickly establishes itself as something to look forward to.

An effective therapist demonstrates they can help and will help

An effective therapist knows the other people in a client’s life can’t or won’t help them. If they could, they wouldn’t be in therapy. By proving they can and will help, an effective therapist enables a client to change. They do this by tailoring their approach to individual clients, drawing on a range of different theories, ideas and practical techniques, that result in concrete changes in a client’s life.

Modern neuroscience demonstrates that effective therapy literally switches a client’s brain from a closed to open state. In this open state and through a process known in psychology as transduction, a client’s brain integrates the new learning from therapy and is – literally – transformed.

An effective therapist increases self-awareness

When someone sits in front of a therapist, they know something is not right in their lives. This is where an effective therapist starts. They take a client’s emerging self-awareness of their difficulties and expands it. What does a client know about their situation? And importantly what do they NOT know? By asking great questions, an effective therapist discovers the gaps in a client’s understanding and fills them. In this way effective therapy:

  • Explains why things are as they are
  • Increases what someone knows about themselves and their situation
  • Changes how someone thinks, feels and behaves
  • Reframes unhelpful perspectives into helpful ones
  • Develops coping strategies
  • Identifies solutions
  • Improves relationships
  • Accesses strengths and resources

An effective therapist provides a helpful model of change

Many people struggle to change not because they can’t, but because they don’t know how. Someone in therapy is someone with an unhelpful model of change, one oten characterised by: impatience, perfectionism, unrealistic expectations, self-criticism and impossible goals. An effective therapist equips someone with a helpful model of change, one based on:

  • Time and patience
  • Progress and setbacks
  • Kindness and compassion
  • Learning and reflection
  • Effective, adaptable and long-lasting ideas, techniques and strategies

Once someone knows how to change, it is amazing just how patient, flexible and realistic they can be.

An effective therapist helps people to thrive and survive

An effective therapist will know which areas of a client’s life contain the clues to their difficulties. This is because they understand modern psychology and what it has to say on human flourishing. As a result, an effective therapist brings clarity, not confusion. They explain why things are as they are for clients and how to get them to where they want to be.

At Conversations With Impact, our core therapeutic model is the Human Givens approach. This explains good or poor mental health and wellbeing as resulting from poorly met emotional needs and poorly used resources. For more information, we’d love to hear from you.

Effective therapy

Conversations With Impact has been providing effective therapy since 2005. If you or someone that you know would benefit from talking to an effective therapist, then please get in touch.

Before commit ingto working with us, we’ll give you as much time as you need to:

  • tell us about your situation
  • find out all you need know about us and our approach
  • feel confident you can work with us

“I came to mark at a very low time suffering with anxiety for months. I couldn’t cope anymore as it was effecting me physically. I was struggling to do day to day things which most people would find non threatening. He immediately put me at ease during our telephone consultation. So I wasn’t too nervous to meet him in person. On our first session, I couldn’t believe how much he helped me to change the way I thought about things (light bulb moment!) In a short period of time. Am glad I found him. I have started to change the way I look at my problems. Being kinder to myself. I will no longer let the past blackmail my present and ruin my future. Please if anyone of you out there is suffering in any form of anxiety. Please don’t hesitate to contact mark. And get back on having a quality of life. As I have started too.” Gillian