5 things people with a strong core self do

Developing a strong core self is the holy grail of my professions therapy and coaching because so many benefits come from possessing one, such as positive mental health, healthy relationships, resilience and professional development. The simple truth is that life is easier when we know and like who we are and are confident in our abilities. In this post, we look at just five things that people with a strong core self do.

1. Trust themselves

People with a strong core self say the right things and to do the right things. This is because they know when they are sure of themselves and when they are not. When they are not, they will ask, defer to or get feedback from others. As a result, they rarely get out of their depth or make a fool of themselves by pretending to be someone they are not or knowing something they do not. When they are sure of themselves, it will only be through extensive learning and practising, where they have sought advice from qualified others who can validate their certainty.

2. Form strong, positive relationships

Anyone seeking only gain from others will be unable to form a meaningful attachment to someone with a strong, core self. Whatever they appear to offer in the form of attention or materiality will be seen for what it is – self-interest and control. People with well-developed core selves value themselves and only share with those who reciprocate. And criticism intended to hurt and belittle does not penetrate long enough to matter because they don’t stay in toxic or unequal relationships for long enough.

3. Act decisively

Do you have the confidence to turn good ideas into real ones? After all, it doesn’t make sense not to. Someone with a strong core self never leaves a good idea on the drawing board because they believe their ideas possess value, which they commit to bringing to the world. They use their imaginations to visualise how ideas can be made real, in contrast to people with poorly developed core selves, whose ideas remain trapped in their imagination because they lack the confidence to act on them.

4. Remain calm and composed

People possessing a strong core self are less likely to become unhelpfully stressed because of how they think about life. Adopting a stance of curiosity, positivity and motivation, they enthusiastically engage with life. Consequently, they switch on the part of the body’s nervous system that induces calm and composure, known as the Relaxation Response. If you have heard of the Fight, Flight or Freeze Response, the Relaxation Response is the opposite. Unfamiliar, novel experiences are deliberately sought out and embraced as opportunities, not avoided as threats. This approach to life keeps their Relaxation Response switched on, and their Fight, Flight or Freeze Response is only ever switched on appropriately, i.e. when there is a genuine threat.

5. Thrive and survive

By avoiding the difficulties of not having a strong core self, those who do create a self-perpetuating, virtuous circle for themselves, maximising their ability to thrive and survive. Thriving and surviving is the aim of all human beings because this optimal state ensures we flourish in good times and resiliently get through difficult ones. Unlike people with poorly developed core selves, they don’t undermine their ability to thrive and survive by engaging in negative, self-sabotaging thinking and behaving because doing so is illogical.

Do you want to develop a strong core self?

If you would like support to strengthen your core self, then my IMPACT Transformation Programmes, based on my unique IMPACT Model, might be just what you are looking for. To book your free initial consultation, visit my booking page. I will give you as much time as you need to tell me what you are going through and to find out how I can help you to achieve the core self you need to flourish.