5 things people who find self-acceptance do

What is the meaning of self-acceptance?

Self-acceptance is exactly what its name suggests: the state of complete acceptance of oneself. True self-acceptance is embracing who you are, without any qualifications, conditions, or exceptions.”

The ability to accept one’s qualities or attributes, be they positive or negative, is another definition. By achieving self-acceptance, we are making a positive contribution to our mental health and wellbeing. Put bluntly, self-acceptance makes life easier and in this blog, we look at 5 things that people who accept themselves do.

1. Talk positively to themselves

Self-talk, or the ‘act or practice of talking to oneself’, is one way we use our imaginations to conduct our personal and professional lives. Mental to-do lists for the day ahead, preparing for next week’s staff meeting, or planning our next career move, self-talk is how we shape and construct our reality. It enables us to get things done, problem-solve and monitor whether we are on track in life.

The self-talk of people who accept themselves is characterised by qualities such as positivity, fairness, constructive criticism and kindness. Whereas the self-talk of people who struggle with self-acceptance, is negative, unfair, punitive and mean.

2. Balance positives with negatives

If you were to ask someone who accepts themselves to summarise their lives, they would offer you a balanced view of what was going well alongside areas for improvement. Their motto might be ‘There’s nothing wrong with you that what’s right with you can’t fix.’ Self-acceptance amplifies the positive and cushions the negative. To the ‘self-accepter’ setbacks, difficulties and hardship are part of the picture, never the whole of it.

3. Assert themselves

Assertiveness, or the ability to expressing thoughts, feelings and beliefs in direct, honest and appropriate ways, comes naturally to people who accept themselves. This is because self-acceptance goes hand-in-hand with positive self-esteem. While they value what others can bring to their lives, people who accept themselves are not dependent on them doing so. Self-acceptance creates a strong, core identity that rejects attempts to undermine it. People who accept themselves walk away from relationships that don’t.

4. Make good use of their nervous system

Self-acceptance, because it is life-affirming, protects and supports our mental health and wellbeing. As a result, self-acceptance switches on what is called our body’s ‘Relaxation Response’ and switches off our ‘Fight, flight or freeze’ response. The Relaxation Response counteracts the physiological effects of stress and the fight, flight or freeze response. Research “…has shown that regular use of the Relaxation Response can help any health problem that is caused or exacerbated by chronic stress such as fibromyalgia, gastrointestinal ailments, insomnia, hypertension, anxiety disorders, and others.”

5. Challenge themselves

Being alive is a challenge and to do it well, we need to both thrive and survive. Fairly or unfairly, evolution has determined that achieving the optimum state of thriving and surviving requires continual investment. This means accepting challenge is a necessity, not a choice. People who accept themselves, accept this principle. People who don’t, resent it. As a consequence, self-accepters are more likely to feel stretched in ways that give them a sense of meaning and purpose. 

Getting support for self-acceptance

There are many more things that people who accept themselves do. If you would like to accept yourself and do more in life, we’d love to work with you. At Conversations With Impact we have supported many clients to find self-acceptance to improve the quality of their lives. To find out what our clients say, visit our Testimonials page on this website.