What is Personal Transformation?

Personal Transformation is the process by which we change aspects of who we are and what we do. It is the journey – ‘I am transforming’ – and the destination ‘I am transformed’. Engaging in Personal Transformation is a statement of positive intent. It marks the point at which we say to ourselves ‘Who I am is not who I want to be’ and ‘What I am doing is not what I want to be doing’. It is a deliberate and active commitment to get us to the point when we can say ‘I am who I want to be, and I am doing what I want to be doing.

Who undertakes Personal Transformation?

Personal Transformation is undertaken by people who possess the self-awareness to know they don’t want their lives to carry on as they are. Without self-awareness, Personal Transformation isn’t an option because to the person lacking it there is nothing to transform. Personal Transformation is not without its challenges, so those who engage in it tend to have good levels of self-belief, confidence and importantly support. Some people are happy and content to remain as they are, choosing a lifestyle that makes few demands on them. However, many people do choose to personally transform themselves. If you haven’t so far, ask yourself why.

When does Personal Transformation take place?

Personal Transformation often follows a reappraisal of our lives when we conclude that something needs to change. The catalyst may be unhappiness, boredom or the need for a new challenge. Or it may result from life events, personal relationships or professional circumstances. Personal Transformation can also happen during important life stages such as when we move from education into work, when we change career or when we step into new life roles such as becoming a partner or parent.

Why do people commit to their Personal Transformation?

If we want certain outcomes in life, we have no choice but to commit to our Personal Transformation. While it can be hard at times, investing can be rewarding and enjoyable. And in arriving at the destination, we can look back at just how gratifying the journey has been. As such, Personal Transformation helps us to thrive and survive. Life is always making demands of us and it can feel satisfying when we are able to meet those demands through transforming who we are and how we do things. If we don’t work on our personal transformation, then challenges increase while our ability to cope with them decreases.

Where does Personal Transformation happen?

It might seem an odd question to ask ‘Where’, but Personal Transformation has to take place somewhere. Where exactly will be dictated by the area of someone’s life needing transformation. For example, if they want to be more assertive at home, then this is where their focus will be. If they want to be more socially confident, then their focus will be on the places they socialise in. Importantly, ‘Where’ is both physical AND mental. Personal Transformation happens in both physical spaces and places, and also in the imagination.

How to do Personal Transformation

  1. Develop self-awareness to discover whether there are any areas of your life you would like to transform. There are many ways to do this, but here are 4 ways you can begin with:
    • Get a pen and paper. Write down what comes to mind with regards to common thoughts, behaviours and feelings/emotions. Are they generally positive or negative? If positive, can they be improved? If negative, what needs addressing?
    • Break down your life into important areas such as yourself, home, work, relationships and your connection to the world. Spend some quiet time reflecting on these areas and whether any suggest themselves as candidates for transformation.
  2. Reread your favourite book or re-watch your favourite film. There will be a reason the story told in them has grabbed you and stayed with you. Stories are about Personal Transformation contains the clues for your own. Look for your clues because they will be there.
  3. Set yourself a 0-10 Challenge. Choose a number that represents where you are now, and then choose a number that represents where you would like to be. Describe what your life is like after reaching your desired number. What is different from your life now? The differences show you where your areas of transformation lie.
  4. Talk to people you trust about how your life is, to see what emerges. Often people close to us can help us discover our blind spots. If you don’t have that person or you need a new perspective, contact a therapist or life coach. Tell them you think the time has come to embark on your own journey of Personal Transformation.

Is it time for your Personal Transformation?

“Hi Mark – Long time no speak, which I suppose in my case is a good thing. Just thought I would drop you a line to say thanks for all your help. It has completely changed me as a person and put me on a new track in life. I’m now working as a teaching assistant and enjoying every minute. So out of my comfort zone working with 11 year olds, but it’s great. Anyway, not going to bore you with all the details, but just to say thanks for everything you have done for me.” Bruno

If you feel the time has come for your Personal Transformation, then we’d love to hear from you. Like Bruno, we have worked with hundreds of clients, helping them to build a stronger version of themselves.