Do I need to see a therapist? 6 signs you do

If our car breaks down or our radiators spring a leak, we go to the garage or call a plumber because the signs are obvious. Matters can be less apparent when our mental health and wellbeing suffers. While the signs are often there, many people fail to recognise them for what they are or even notice them at all, which is why it can take a crisis before they act. As a coach and therapist for over 16 years, I know that many people would have accessed therapy long before they reached a crisis point had they known which signs to look for. In my blog, ‘Do I need to see a therapist?’ I highlight six signs you can look out for that indicate you might need to see a therapist long before things get out of hand.

How to have great therapy

When someone decides to speak to a therapist, they are commenting on their existing conversations, and that is, they are not making the difference they are after. If they were, they wouldn’t be talking to the therapist. The reason therapists exist is to give us what our existing support network can’t or won’t. A client leaving a therapy session must be able to say, ‘That was exactly what I needed. No one I know could or would have talked to me that way.’

A therapist’s job is to give someone a Conversation With Impact because only these result in the personal breakthroughs we need to achieve good mental health and wellbeing. In this post, I look at how you can make sure your therapist does this for you.

Trauma – an understanding

According to the mental health charity MIND, trauma is when ‘we experience stressful, frightening or distressing events.’ As has become evident during the covid crisis, trauma has become a contemporary issue. From the direct impact of covid itself to its indirect effects such as redundancy, homelessness, and domestic violence, there is a pressing need for individuals, families, employees, and employers to be aware of trauma, its effects, and how to respond to it.

How video games can help in therapy

To some it might seem odd to think of video games as possessing therapeutic value, while to others is makes perfect sense. In actual fact, it is not a new idea and there has been research for a decade or more suggesting how gaming can help people in a range of ways. This blog draws on our own experience at Conversations With Impact utilising gaming in therapy.

Therapy: what an effective therapist can do for you (video)

We hope you enjoy our video on ‘Going for therapy’. Not everyone knows what to expect from therapy while others have had a negative prior experience of it. At Conversations With Impact our aim is to ensure clients receive effective therapy. If you are considering seeing a therapist or returning to one, we hope our video makes this decision easier for you.

Chris’ story of personal and professional transformation

“Most of us have distorted self-image.” “Most people think that people are more interested in us than they really are.” I showed this excerpt from an article in the New Scientist to my client Chris in his first therapy session. A successful SME owner, he had come to see me for both personal and professional reasons. Personally, he had issues with alcohol and cocaine, which were “helping me deal with my marriage break-up.” Professionally, his business was in danger of becoming “very unsuccessful if I don’t sort things out. I need some kind of transformation.”

What does an effective therapist do?

An effective therapist can change someone’s life and even save it. Effective therapists possess great people skills, which their training develops and enhances. Naturally good at building relationships, they have an immediate impact on the people they meet. Their self-belief, confidence and presence remove the doubts and fears someone brings into therapy. And their appreciation for and acceptance of their clients – no matter their identity, gender, age, sexuality, ethnicity – creates a powerful professional bond. Effective therapy is a flexible, problem-solving process that is never about the therapist and always about the client. In this blog, we look in more detail at some aspects of effective therapy.

Seeing it more clearly: 5 perspectives on understanding depression

While there is better public awareness of depression, we find that people often lack an understanding of THEIR depression. They know they are depressed, but not why. The mystery factor leads people to search for answers in the wrong places, potentially prolonging and worsening their depression. It is our belief that depression is explainable in the vast majority of instances. Effective therapy addresses any lack of understanding as a matter of priority. So if you are seeking therapeutic support for depression, make sure your therapist helps you make sense of it.

Imaginative Therapy for Positive Mental Health

A recent BBC article called ‘Can you imagine your way to success’ looked at whether we can use our imaginations for personal and professional growth. The answer, according to the article, it seems is yes. Examples given were how a focused use of the imagination can improve performance in sport, education and weight loss. In our approach to therapy, we introduce clients to an important psychological law called The Law of Concentrated Attention. This law states that our brains actively bring about what we focus our imaginations on. In simple terms, the BBC article and the Law of Concentrated Attention, equate to this principle: negative in, negative out, positive in, positive out. It is an absolute requirement for therapists – or anyone else involved in supporting and developing people – to appreciate this.

What to expect when you go to therapy for the first time

More and more of us are going for therapy. This blog is for those who are considering it for the first time. At Conversations With Impact, we believe that it is the responsibility of the therapist to ensure a client has a positive experience* What we write below assumes that the therapist gets it right for you.

* Therapy is not a perfect science. It can’t all be down to the therapist, but if they get it right for someone early on, we think they’ll fully commit.