How to become unstuck in life

Getting stuck is normal. It happens to us all, and often, we can laugh or shrug it off. However, sometimes we visit stuckness at the other end of the scale when it is no laughing matter. When we are personally or professionally trapped, profound stuckness can have severe consequences for our mental health and wellbeing. Unlike its temporary counterpart, profound stuckness is characterised by a strong desire to change our circumstances that prove impossible for known or unknown reasons. A vicious cycle establishes itself when we realise that our journey is taking us further away from where we need to be. Luckily, there are ways out of the impasse. How do we know this? Because people become unstuck all of the time. In my blog, ‘What to do if you are stuck?’ I look at six ways that can help you.

How to transform setbacks into successes

Have you ever felt like giving someone a piece of your mind when they tell you that setbacks are a part of life – immediately after you have experienced one? I know I have, but despite the often abysmal timing of such advice, the uncomfortable truth is that setbacks are inevitable. It is how we perceive and respond to them that matters. The good news is that there are many practical and crucially learnable ways to ensure setbacks do not define us but are moments from which we can learn and grow. In my blog, How to transform setbacks into successes, I share six highly effective approaches to make the difference you are after.

Positive wellbeing: achieve it, keep it!

The concept of wellbeing isn’t a new one, even if the term is (relatively). Human beings have been seeking positive wellbeing for as long as there have been human beings because being ‘comfortable, healthy and happy’ is a primary human drive or instinct. In my work, I look at the areas below when supporting people achieve positive wellbeing and keep it:

• Identity: self-esteem/worth
• Home and family life
• Relationships
• Work/Career/professional
• Health (mental and/or physical)
• Financial
• Lifestyle
• Social and cultural
• Environment

However, wellbeing can be easier to define than attain as it requires constant investment as we move through different life stages. For example, positive wellbeing to someone in their twenties will be very different to someone in their fifties. My professions, coaching and therapy, are just two of many that help people with their wellbeing. In my blog, I discuss six practical strategies you can use to recognise and achieve your ideal state of wellbeing.

How can I be more productive in life?

Did you know that parts of our brain exist simultaneously in our past, present, and future? No? Until I became a coach and therapist, neither did I. But think about it. As human beings, we talk about our past, present and future all the time, so why would our brains – their structure and functionality – not reflect this? Ok, I hear you ask, what does this have to do with productivity? Well, here’s what. You see, these past, present and future parts talk to each other, and what they talk about is whether our lives are on track – or not. Each day, they monitor our thoughts, behaviours, feelings and relationships for evidence that we have a life plan and the strategies to carry it out.

And this is where productivity comes in, for, without it, our life plan remains on the drawing board, gathering dust. And this is something our past, present and future parts don’t like one single bit. Productivity is how we make our lives happen, and in my blog, How can I be more productive in life, I share six ways you can be consistently productive.

Six ways to make the life you want

My blog, Six ways to make the life you want, is not one of those blogs that say making the life you want is easy. Instead, this blog is grounded in the reality that life consists of ups and downs. As a coach, therapist and ordinary human being, I know that what many of us come to appreciate is the ability to maximise positive periods and minimise challenging ones. Life experience tells us that with this ability, the overall trajectory of our lives will be in the right direction when we realise that good times do follow bad ones and not just the other way around. If you recognise this reality, then my blog is for you.

How to understand and overcome depression

Depression is one of the most common forms of mental illness – maybe you have been depressed or know someone who has – and can be mild, moderate or severe. It is associated with various symptoms, such as negative thoughts, emptiness, irritability, and suicidal thoughts and actions in extreme cases. While there are different types of depression, the most common form is ‘reactive depression’, where someone experiences depression due to adverse and challenging life events such as divorce or redundancy. In this blog, I offer six different perspectives on reactive depression so you can better understand and overcome it.

Negative thinking and how to overcome it

Negative thinking refers to patterns of thinking negatively about who we are, what we do and the life we lead. Some negative thinking is normal and, as we shall see, helpful, but when it dominates, when the thoughts come thick and fast, it can often indicate an underlying mental health condition. This blog will offer you some ideas, perspectives and approaches to thinking about and overcoming ‘negative thinking’.

How to have great therapy

When someone decides to speak to a therapist, they are commenting on their existing conversations, and that is, they are not making the difference they are after. If they were, they wouldn’t be talking to the therapist. The reason therapists exist is to give us what our existing support network can’t or won’t. A client leaving a therapy session must be able to say, ‘That was exactly what I needed. No one I know could or would have talked to me that way.’

A therapist’s job is to give someone a Conversation With Impact because only these result in the personal breakthroughs we need to achieve good mental health and wellbeing. In this post, I look at how you can make sure your therapist does this for you.