Six ways to make the life you want

My blog, Six ways to make the life you want, is not one of those blogs that say making the life you want is easy. Instead, this blog is grounded in the reality that life consists of ups and downs. As a coach, therapist and ordinary human being, I know that what many of us come to appreciate is the ability to maximise positive periods and minimise challenging ones. Life experience tells us that with this ability, the overall trajectory of our lives will be in the right direction when we realise that good times do follow bad ones and not just the other way around. If you recognise this reality, then my blog is for you.

How to understand and overcome depression

Depression is one of the most common forms of mental illness – maybe you have been depressed or know someone who has – and can be mild, moderate or severe. It is associated with various symptoms, such as negative thoughts, emptiness, irritability, and suicidal thoughts and actions in extreme cases. While there are different types of depression, the most common form is ‘reactive depression’, where someone experiences depression due to adverse and challenging life events such as divorce or redundancy. In this blog, I offer six different perspectives on reactive depression so you can better understand and overcome it.

Negative thinking and how to overcome it

Negative thinking refers to patterns of thinking negatively about who we are, what we do and the life we lead. Some negative thinking is normal and, as we shall see, helpful, but when it dominates, when the thoughts come thick and fast, it can often indicate an underlying mental health condition. This blog will offer you some ideas, perspectives and approaches to thinking about and overcoming ‘negative thinking’.

How to have great therapy

When someone decides to speak to a therapist, they are commenting on their existing conversations, and that is, they are not making the difference they are after. If they were, they wouldn’t be talking to the therapist. The reason therapists exist is to give us what our existing support network can’t or won’t. A client leaving a therapy session must be able to say, ‘That was exactly what I needed. No one I know could or would have talked to me that way.’

A therapist’s job is to give someone a Conversation With Impact because only these result in the personal breakthroughs we need to achieve good mental health and wellbeing. In this post, I look at how you can make sure your therapist does this for you.