A Helpful model of positive change

Every year in January and February, houses and offices reverberate to the sound of positive intentions: weight loss, wellbeing/exercise, hobbies and career change. Maybe you are having one of these conversations right now? While the first two months of the year have gained a reputation for being somewhat depressing, at Conversations With Impact unsurprisingly we take a different view. For us the New Year is a catalyst for change – and this can only be a good thing. For underneath the fun that is often had with New Years’ Resolutions can lie unhappy or unfulfilling lives that Resolutions seeks to remedy.

How to build assertiveness

Assertiveness is an important social skill and is either being sought or developed by people in a wide-variety of contexts and situations. By building assertiveness, you will be making a significant contribution towards your mental health and emotional wellbeing. This is because assertiveness goes hand-in-hand with good levels of self-esteem and self-worth. Assertiveness can also be important to someone’s overall Personal and Professional Development.

However, if assertiveness does not come easily to you, or you need to update this skill due to a change in circumstances, our blog has some helpful strategies to get your assertiveness to where you want it to be.

How to build assertiveness in relationships

“It is naive to think that self-assertiveness is easy. To live self-assertively–which means to live authentically–is an act of high courage. That is why so many people spend the better part of their lives in hiding–from others and also from themselves.” Nathaniel Branden

It is often said that assertiveness occupies the middle ground between passivity and aggression. Assertiveness involves communicating feelings, beliefs and thoughts confidently and openly, and defending personal rights and values in a socially acceptable, non-offensive, and non-destructive manner.

Getting support: why our last 8 clients got in touch

What happens to someone when they decide to seek support? What triggers them to call/email/text a business like ours? If you have seen a therapist or coach then you will know what triggered you. At Conversations With Impact, we find it fascinating more so because the reasons are never straightforward.

Anxiety: the emotion of the future

As a therapist and coach, I see anxiety as an ’emotion of the future’. Our brains are geared towards predicting the future. This means that certain areas of our brains are already in our future looking back at our present. If they don’t like what they see, they let us know through triggering anxiety.

If therapy and coaching are about anything, they are about engaging with and reassuring our future selves. ‘Don’t worry, I’m on to it,’ we might say to them. By building trust and self-belief, flexibility and adaptability, therapy and coaching can really help with future-based anxiety.

Understanding perfectionism

Perfectionism is becoming increasingly recognised as a serious mental health issue. In fact, it is possible to find it almost anywhere. Education, social media, parenting, lifestyle and work – perfectionism has acquired a certain pervasiveness. In our experience, conditions such as anxiety, depression and body image are often closely related to it. While not a new phenomenon, there is evidence that perfectionism is on the increase. In this blog we take a closer look at perfectionism.

8 momentum-building benefits of coaching

Momentum is a precious quality. Without it, we can remain stuck or in difficulty. With it, we can make progress, achieve personal growth and realise our personal and professional potential. Sustaining momentum requires us to make a strategic decision. Can we keep moving in the right direction with our existing resources? Or do we need to involve someone else such as a coach to do so? When someone get in touch with us, they have said ‘No’ to the first question and ‘Yes’ to the second. In this blog, we list 8 momentum-building benefits of coaching to help you make the decision that is right for you.

Seeing it more clearly: 5 perspectives on understanding depression

While there is better public awareness of depression, we find that people often lack an understanding of THEIR depression. They know they are depressed, but not why. The mystery factor leads people to search for answers in the wrong places, potentially prolonging and worsening their depression. It is our belief that depression is explainable in the vast majority of instances. Effective therapy addresses any lack of understanding as a matter of priority. So if you are seeking therapeutic support for depression, make sure your therapist helps you make sense of it.

Imaginative Therapy for Positive Mental Health

A recent BBC article called ‘Can you imagine your way to success’ looked at whether we can use our imaginations for personal and professional growth. The answer, according to the article, it seems is yes. Examples given were how a focused use of the imagination can improve performance in sport, education and weight loss. In our approach to therapy, we introduce clients to an important psychological law called The Law of Concentrated Attention. This law states that our brains actively bring about what we focus our imaginations on. In simple terms, the BBC article and the Law of Concentrated Attention, equate to this principle: negative in, negative out, positive in, positive out. It is an absolute requirement for therapists – or anyone else involved in supporting and developing people – to appreciate this.

6 reasons why you STILL have a difficult relationship with food

Many of us would like a relationship with food like the one butterflies have with flowers and nectar – taking only what you need. However, many of us struggle to achieve such a relationship. Problem eating and its effects have been identified as a national health crisis. Conditions linked to eating problems such as obesity, diabetes and cancer, are estimated to costs society billions of pounds a year. Why does this happen? After all, most of us know what we should and should not eat. There’s more than enough nutritional advice out there online… So, why do so many of us eat more than we need to? Why do so many of us fail each diet we start? In this blog, we considered 6 reasons why.