Personal Branding – a life changing story

In November 2019, I started to work with Simon, a former Royal Engineer in the British Army. Five years previously, Simon had been medically discharged from the Army following an injury sustained in his duties. Those five years were hard, very hard. Being a soldier was all Simon had ever wanted to be. “I knew that when I was in nappies.” Like many armed forces personnel, Simon’s mental health deteriorated markedly upon leaving the army, a situation made all the worse because he hadn’t left out of choice.

In this post, we tell the story of how Personal Branding helped to turn Simon’s life around.

Video games therapy

To some it might seem odd to think of video games as possessing therapeutic value, while to others is makes perfect sense. In actual fact, it is not a new idea and there has been research for a decade or more suggesting how gaming can help people in a range of ways. This blog draws on our own experience at Conversations With Impact utilising gaming in therapy.

Personal Transformation and how to achieve it

Personal Transformation is the process by which we change aspects of who we are and what we do. It is the journey – ‘I am transforming’ – and the destination ‘I am transformed’. Engaging in Personal Transformation is a statement of positive intent. It marks the point at which we say to ourselves ‘Who I am is not who I want to be’ and ‘What I am doing is not what I want to be doing’. It is a deliberate and active commitment to get us to the point when we can say ‘I am who I want to be, and I am doing what I want to be doing.’

5 things people with a strong core self do

Developing a strong core self is the holy grail of my professions therapy and coaching because so many benefits come from possessing one. The simple truth is that life is easier when we know and like who we are, and when we think positively of ourselves and are confident in our abilities. In this post, we look at just 5 things that people with a strong core self do.

New boundaries for old partners: Steve’s story

A recent client, who I shall call Steve, sits in front of me, head in his hands, and tells me this has been one of the worst weeks since we started working together. He can’t explain it. Things had been going so well. I’d seen Steve a week previously, so I asked him to start with the day of that session and work forwards. Steve looks to the ceiling and utters a series of ‘Thursday was ok’, ‘Friday was fine’, ‘Yes, Saturday was ok’ and so on until he gets to Sunday evening. Recalling Sunday evening, Steve looks me in the eye, and says ‘Boundaries. Ugh! You keep telling me about the importance of boundaries.’

Emotions: past, present & future

Human beings exist in time and who we are and what we do is characterised by it. In my work, I have long held the view that our brains can be thought of as time machines, which are geared up to operate simultaneously in our past, present and future. Indeed, modern neuroscience suggests this is the case.

One of the main functions of our brains is in the generation of emotions. Emotions are messages, which help us to understand why things are as they are in our lives. It makes sense therefore to think of our emotions from a time perspective and this is what this blog is about.

5 things people who find self-acceptance do

Self-acceptance is the state of complete acceptance of oneself. True self-acceptance is embracing who you are, without any qualifications, conditions, or exceptions.” The ability to accept one’s qualities or attributes, be they positive or negative, is another definition. By achieving self-acceptance, we are making a positive contribution to our mental health and wellbeing. Put bluntly, self-acceptance makes life easier and in this blog, we look at 5 things that people who accept themselves do.

Relationship contract – what to consider

To some it might sound odd to talk of contracts in relationships, while to others it makes perfect sense. However, a contract is exactly what we enter into when we form a relationship. No relationship is perfect, but having a good contract can enable it to flourish through good times and bad, or reveal when it can or should be ended. In this blog, we look at this topic in more detail from the perspective of intimate relationships.

Effective Goal Setting

‘When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.’ Confucius. Where are you now? Where do you want to be? Who are you now? Who do you want to be? There are many ways to find answers to these questions. They can be found individually or with support. When the answers are found, however, one thing is certain: effective goal setting will be at the heart of someone’s search. In this blog we look at in more detail at how to develop an effective goal setting strategy.

A Helpful model of positive change

Every year in January and February, houses and offices reverberate to the sound of positive intentions: weight loss, wellbeing/exercise, hobbies and career change. Maybe you are having one of these conversations right now? While the first two months of the year have gained a reputation for being somewhat depressing, at Conversations With Impact unsurprisingly we take a different view. For us the New Year is a catalyst for change – and this can only be a good thing. For underneath the fun that is often had with New Years’ Resolutions can lie unhappy or unfulfilling lives that Resolutions seeks to remedy.