Workplace Burnout – Without The Boom!

Workplace burnout has become one of the mental health issues of our time, with estimates of around 50% of people in the UK experiencing it according to a recent Forbes article. Despite the seriousness of the condition, people can and do go on to make a complete recovery, and in this case study, I talk about my work with Emma (not her real name) and how my IMPACT Model enabled her to go from a very dark place to a very good one.

Personal Branding – a life changing story

In November 2019, I started to work with Simon, a former Royal Engineer in the British Army. Five years previously, Simon had been medically discharged from the Army following an injury sustained in his duties. Those five years were hard, very hard. Being a soldier was all Simon had ever wanted to be. “I knew that when I was in nappies.” Like many armed forces personnel, Simon’s mental health deteriorated markedly upon leaving the army, a situation made all the worse because he hadn’t left out of choice.

In this post, we tell the story of how Personal Branding helped to turn Simon’s life around.

New boundaries for old partners: Steve’s story

A recent client, who I shall call Steve, sits in front of me, head in his hands, and tells me this has been one of the worst weeks since we started working together. He can’t explain it. Things had been going so well. I’d seen Steve a week previously, so I asked him to start with the day of that session and work forwards. Steve looks to the ceiling and utters a series of ‘Thursday was ok’, ‘Friday was fine’, ‘Yes, Saturday was ok’ and so on until he gets to Sunday evening. Recalling Sunday evening, Steve looks me in the eye, and says ‘Boundaries. Ugh! You keep telling me about the importance of boundaries.’

Chris’ story of personal and professional transformation

“Most of us have distorted self-image.” “Most people think that people are more interested in us than they really are.” I showed this excerpt from an article in the New Scientist to my client Chris in his first therapy session. A successful SME owner, he had come to see me for both personal and professional reasons. Personally, he had issues with alcohol and cocaine, which were “helping me deal with my marriage break-up.” Professionally, his business was in danger of becoming “very unsuccessful if I don’t sort things out. I need some kind of transformation.”

Back on track: a small business success story

According to the Federation of Small Businesses in the U.K., ‘…many small business owners neglect their own mental and physical wellbeing.’ At Conversations With Impact, we understand why. Running a small business can be a 24/7 commitment and when adversity strikes, the easiest option can be to ignore it.

The head-in-the sand approach was exactly how our client Gillian responded to a difficult time in her life, until a chance conversation led her to pick up the phone to me. The son of family friend she was visiting, someone I was working with at the time, wrote down my details for her and said ‘He’ll sort you out.’ A week later, Gillian was sat in front of me facing up to her anxiety.

Healthy eating: Clare’s life coaching story

In October of 2018, I started life coaching with Clare, a magazine publisher with a great turn of phrase. ‘I have issues with food,’ she told me, ‘and it has got to the time of year when I traditionally lose what little self-control I have. I need someone who will support and challenge me to make changes. I don’t have a relationship that can do this.” The next twelve months had to be different for Clare – the period of time she had given herself. Despite a great deal of fear, she was amazed at being sat in front of someone like me. ‘This year can be different because I’ve never done this before.’ What had changed? ‘Boredom. I am so bored with who I am.’ Who Clare was, her identity, was inextricably bound up with food.

Therapy: A Small Business Investment

“My business provides agricultural services to farmers. My clients are completely reliant on me and my kit, especially at harvest time. Last year during harvest time, I was with my team when our expensive new kit broke down. They stood back waiting for me to explode. But I didn’t. They burst out in nervous laughter.’ Mark taught me to listen to my brain and body. It never occurred to me that panic attacks and explosive rages, were messages to be listened to. Once I knew this, I was able to tune in to what I was saying to myself. And what I was saying to myself was: get help.

What I Learnt in Therapy about my OCD

“Mark’s explanation for why people like him exist made so much sense. Therapists exist, he said, to give us what others can’t or won’t. And what I wasn’t getting was: challenge. If someone had told me I needed to be challenged to overcome my Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, I’m not sure I would have understood. But Mark pointed out what was obvious: overcoming a major condition like OCD is a challenge. Of course I needed to be challenged. What I learnt in therapy, was that challenge can be one of the kindest of acts.

Overcoming illness, trauma and depression: Laura’s story of IMPACT

“In the two years or so prior to seeing Mark, I had surgery for cancer and developed an intestinal condition. Before that and for more years than I care to remember, I was suffering from what I now know to be Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder as the result of two traumatic incidents. My professional life, while successful, was ruining my health. I had avoided therapy because I saw it as a failure, but despite my best efforts my antidepressants weren’t helping.

Learning how to manage anger – Tom’s story of how therapy helped him

“I used to get road rage when driving. I used to get angry at work and get into shouting mode in meetings. I used to get angry a lot. Looking back, so much of my behaviour was unacceptable. At the time though it felt like justifiable revenge for an imagined offence against me – the type of revenge that deliberately hurts someone. My anger seemed natural and reasonable. Now when I stop to look back at a past incident, be it road rage or meeting rage, I regret what I did.” Tom