How to overcome Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome is the constant inability to believe that our achievements and successes are deserved or are due to our efforts and abilities. The term has become a popular one in recent years, and there is one reason for this: many people identify with it. And while concepts like Imposter Syndrome can sometimes be unhelpful, they are not always so. When they are helpful, they raise awareness of important aspects of who we are and what we do, and with awareness comes opportunities for change. In my blog, How to overcome Imposter Syndrome, I consider its origins and crucially ways to overcome it.

6 ways to make better decisions

One of the most famous movie scenes is from the first Matrix film, when Keanu Reeve’s character, Neo, decides which pill to take: the red one or the blue (apologies if you haven’t seen the film). For Neo, the decision is a momentous one, but the power of that scene, for me at least, lies in its ability to capture the enormity of the decision-making moment in real life. Not every decision we have to make is seismic, obviously. What we have for breakfast is less consequential than who we work for. Still, many decisions are far-reaching and having an effective strategy to increase your chances of making good decisions can only be a ‘good’ thing, which is the subject of my blog, 6 ways to make better decisions.

When close relationships need to change

Human beings are social animals for a reason. In evolutionary terms, close relationships were vital for our survival and in modern society, our mental and physical health and wellbeing depend on them. Positive relationships are associated with numerous benefits, such as higher levels of happiness and resilience. There is even some evidence that our life expectancy is influenced by whether we have a solid network of support around us. Consequently, close relationships need our constant care and attention. When, as happens for all of us, they suffer, we need to know the signs to do something about it, which is the subject of my latest blog: six signs your close relationships need to change.

How to transform setbacks into successes

Have you ever felt like giving someone a piece of your mind when they tell you that setbacks are a part of life – immediately after you have experienced one? I know I have, but despite the often abysmal timing of such advice, the uncomfortable truth is that setbacks are inevitable. It is how we perceive and respond to them that matters. The good news is that there are many practical and crucially learnable ways to ensure setbacks do not define us but are moments from which we can learn and grow. In my blog, How to transform setbacks into successes, I share six highly effective approaches to make the difference you are after.

Effective leadership and mental health

If covid has demonstrated anything, it is the critical role mental health and wellbeing plays in leadership. A leader in name only is a leader who is more stressed than a manager seeking solutions from them or who is burnt-out as they attempt to address organisational challenges. Positive MH&W creates the necessary spare capacity that leaders need to manage the competing demands of their many functions. And for every £1 spent by employers on mental health interventions, returning ‘£5 back in reduced absence, presenteeism and staff turnover’, the business case for investing in MH&W is indisputable. In my blog, Effective leadership: investing in mental health and wellbeing, I offer six ways leaders can think about and approach their MH&W.

Do I need to see a life coach? 6 signs you do

Whether it is to find a new job or career, build confidence, become more productive or change to a healthier lifestyle, most of us know – or have a good idea of – the areas we want to tackle in life. And yet, despite this knowledge, we often don’t act. Time passes. Personal or professional discontentment grows. Procrastination, unhealthy lifestyles and poor mental health and wellbeing become features of our lives. Something is missing, which would get us started on a journey from where we are now to where we want to be. And what is missing is the subject of my blog. In ‘Do I need to see a life coach?’, I look at six signs that explain why your goals remain on the drawing board, gathering dust and why a life coach can be just what you need.

Do I need to see a therapist? 6 signs you do

If our car breaks down or our radiators spring a leak, we go to the garage or call a plumber because the signs are obvious. Matters can be less apparent when our mental health and wellbeing suffers. While the signs are often there, many people fail to recognise them for what they are or even notice them at all, which is why it can take a crisis before they act. As a coach and therapist for over 16 years, I know that many people would have accessed therapy long before they reached a crisis point had they known which signs to look for. In my blog, ‘Do I need to see a therapist?’ I highlight six signs you can look out for that indicate you might need to see a therapist long before things get out of hand.

How to succeed at university

Are you going to university or thinking of going? Nervous? Excited? Or both? As a student therapist and coach, I know university can be a life-changing experience laying the foundation for future success. Over three or more years, university life offers students the opportunity to shape who they are personally, academically and professionally. With over 16 years of experience supporting students, I know how you can make the most of this stage of your academic journey. In my blog, I talk about the importance of remaining connected to your degree and managing your expectations and then share my top tips and strategies for how to succeed at university.

Positive wellbeing: achieve it, keep it!

The concept of wellbeing isn’t a new one, even if the term is (relatively). Human beings have been seeking positive wellbeing for as long as there have been human beings because being ‘comfortable, healthy and happy’ is a primary human drive or instinct. In my work, I look at the areas below when supporting people achieve positive wellbeing and keep it:

• Identity: self-esteem/worth
• Home and family life
• Relationships
• Work/Career/professional
• Health (mental and/or physical)
• Financial
• Lifestyle
• Social and cultural
• Environment

However, wellbeing can be easier to define than attain as it requires constant investment as we move through different life stages. For example, positive wellbeing to someone in their twenties will be very different to someone in their fifties. My professions, coaching and therapy, are just two of many that help people with their wellbeing. In my blog, I discuss six practical strategies you can use to recognise and achieve your ideal state of wellbeing.

How can I be more productive in life?

Did you know that parts of our brain exist simultaneously in our past, present, and future? No? Until I became a coach and therapist, neither did I. But think about it. As human beings, we talk about our past, present and future all the time, so why would our brains – their structure and functionality – not reflect this? Ok, I hear you ask, what does this have to do with productivity? Well, here’s what. You see, these past, present and future parts talk to each other, and what they talk about is whether our lives are on track – or not. Each day, they monitor our thoughts, behaviours, feelings and relationships for evidence that we have a life plan and the strategies to carry it out.

And this is where productivity comes in, for, without it, our life plan remains on the drawing board, gathering dust. And this is something our past, present and future parts don’t like one single bit. Productivity is how we make our lives happen, and in my blog, How can I be more productive in life, I share six ways you can be consistently productive.