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How to overcome limiting beliefs

A belief is something that we assume to be true, and because we all have beliefs, it means we all have ‘limiting’ beliefs. However, some types are more harmful than others. The least damaging – held by everyone on planet earth! – are limiting beliefs based on an incomplete understanding and knowledge of the world. The most detrimental type, which professionals like myself help people, is when someone believes themselves to be ‘less’ than they are – less of a person, less capable. The fact that a person believes them to be true makes limiting beliefs hard to spot for the holder and difficult for others to discuss. However, the good news is that we can become aware of limiting beliefs and replace them with what are called ‘supportive’ beliefs, or those that help, motivate and encourage.

How to achieve personal growth

When I speak with my clients, they are often frustrated or disappointed with a situation in their life as it is. The problem they have is that they are not sure how to get to the place they want to be – and getting there is a journey of personal growth. There’s a lot of talk about personal growth, but what’s interesting is that we all have a different understanding of what that means. Then again, maybe that’s the point – the bit that makes it personal. We have our own unique perception of who we are and who we want to be – the difficult part is working out the steps that will help us create that change. In my blog, How to achieve personal growth, I look at a concept to which all of us can and perhaps should aspire.

How to deal with overwhelm

Overwhelm is a state we can experience when our demands exceed our ability to cope. At one end of the spectrum, overwhelm is normal. All of us have those days when life gets on top of us. Where matters become more serious is when moments of overwhelm taken on a more permanent look. Although a well-used cliché, modern life makes becoming overwhelmed all too easy. We can be a sudden personal or professional change away from struggling to balance our lives. However, armed with a good understanding of overwhelm and the unique set of factors that make us individually vulnerable, it is entirely possible to know how to deal with overwhelm. In my blog, I look at six approaches to help you better understand and respond to this current mental health and wellbeing condition.

How to rediscover your identity

Losing our identity can happen for many reasons. It can happen quickly or gradually, for known and unknown reasons, and be personal and professional in nature such as divorce and redundancy. A loss of identity changes our relationship with the world around us, detaching us from old certainties and transforming our once-familiar world into a strange, sometimes scary place. There is a whole category of language for losing our identity in the form of words, metaphor, imagery and story. This language becomes how we try to make sense of what we are going through, and herein lies the way back. For this language only exists because so many people have gone down this path before us – and found themselves again. How they did so is the subject of my blog, ‘How to rediscover your identity.’

How to boost your emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence or EQ has become a popular concept, and you can see its widespread application in many settings, such as schools and businesses. A definition of emotional intelligence I like is the ‘intelligent use of emotions’, or the capability to access the full range of our emotions and use them appropriately. Research makes a strong case for developing emotional intelligence. From increased self-awareness to improved decision making and better relationships, being ‘emotionally intelligent’ generally makes life a lot easier to navigate by helping us get along with ourselves and others! And if Personal, Academic and Professional Development is important to you, which it is for most of us, being ‘emotionally intelligent’ will do your Development no harm at all. I hope my blog, How to boost your emotional intelligence, is full of ideas to help you boost yours.

How to improve your thinking

We all know that thinking clearly and positively, especially in critical moments, is a valuable ability to possess. But like the explorer battling their way through a thick jungle, our thinking can become an exhausting thrash through impenetrable psychological undergrowth. Instead of helping us progress through life, like the explorer, we become bogged down and surrounded by our thinking, obscuring the path ahead. For many personal and professional reasons, we can end up thinking about our thinking instead of ourselves and what is most important. Luckily, there are many ways we can get our thinking to help rather than hinder us. In this blog, How to improve your thinking, I look at six of them.

How to overcome loss

There are different types of loss, from minor to significant, predictable to unforeseen. Loss can be personal, such as bereavement, and professional, such as redundancy. We are encouraged to accept and deal with loss as a part of life from a young age. And given that all of us will experience it in its variety of forms, being in a position to handle loss well can make the difference between a life of ‘normal’ ups and downs and one that is derailed by it. Although it is a well-used cliché, human beings are often well equipped to handle life’s adversities and recover from even the most traumatic losses. I don’t mean to suggest that doing so is easy or guaranteed because many people remain permanently and severely impacted through no fault of their own. But there are ways we can maximise our chances of overcoming loss, and this is the subject of this blog, How to overcome loss.

How to become unstuck in life

Getting stuck is normal. It happens to us all, and often, we can laugh or shrug it off. However, sometimes we visit stuckness at the other end of the scale when it is no laughing matter. When we are personally or professionally trapped, profound stuckness can have severe consequences for our mental health and wellbeing. Unlike its temporary counterpart, profound stuckness is characterised by a strong desire to change our circumstances that prove impossible for known or unknown reasons. A vicious cycle establishes itself when we realise that our journey is taking us further away from where we need to be. Luckily, there are ways out of the impasse. How do we know this? Because people become unstuck all of the time. In my blog, ‘What to do if you are stuck?’ I look at six ways that can help you.

How to overcome Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome is the constant inability to believe that our achievements and successes are deserved or are due to our efforts and abilities. The term has become a popular one in recent years, and there is one reason for this: many people identify with it. And while concepts like Imposter Syndrome can sometimes be unhelpful, they are not always so. When they are helpful, they raise awareness of important aspects of who we are and what we do, and with awareness comes opportunities for change. In my blog, How to overcome Imposter Syndrome, I consider its origins and crucially ways to overcome it.

6 ways to make better decisions

One of the most famous movie scenes is from the first Matrix film, when Keanu Reeve’s character, Neo, decides which pill to take: the red one or the blue (apologies if you haven’t seen the film). For Neo, the decision is a momentous one, but the power of that scene, for me at least, lies in its ability to capture the enormity of the decision-making moment in real life. Not every decision we have to make is seismic, obviously. What we have for breakfast is less consequential than who we work for. Still, many decisions are far-reaching and having an effective strategy to increase your chances of making good decisions can only be a ‘good’ thing, which is the subject of my blog, 6 ways to make better decisions.