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Positive wellbeing: achieve it, keep it!

The concept of wellbeing isn’t a new one, even if the term is (relatively). Human beings have been seeking positive wellbeing for as long as there have been human beings because being ‘comfortable, healthy and happy’ is a primary human drive or instinct. In my work, I look at the areas below when supporting people achieve positive wellbeing and keep it:

• Identity: self-esteem/worth
• Home and family life
• Relationships
• Work/Career/professional
• Health (mental and/or physical)
• Financial
• Lifestyle
• Social and cultural
• Environment

However, wellbeing can be easier to define than attain as it requires constant investment as we move through different life stages. For example, positive wellbeing to someone in their twenties will be very different to someone in their fifties. My professions, coaching and therapy, are just two of many that help people with their wellbeing. In my blog, I discuss six practical strategies you can use to recognise and achieve your ideal state of wellbeing.

How can I be more productive in life?

Did you know that parts of our brain exist simultaneously in our past, present, and future? No? Until I became a coach and therapist, neither did I. But think about it. As human beings, we talk about our past, present and future all the time, so why would our brains – their structure and functionality – not reflect this? Ok, I hear you ask, what does this have to do with productivity? Well, here’s what. You see, these past, present and future parts talk to each other, and what they talk about is whether our lives are on track – or not. Each day, they monitor our thoughts, behaviours, feelings and relationships for evidence that we have a life plan and the strategies to carry it out.

And this is where productivity comes in, for, without it, our life plan remains on the drawing board, gathering dust. And this is something our past, present and future parts don’t like one single bit. Productivity is how we make our lives happen, and in my blog, How can I be more productive in life, I share six ways you can be consistently productive.

Six ways to make the life you want

My blog, Six ways to make the life you want, is not one of those blogs that say making the life you want is easy. Instead, this blog is grounded in the reality that life consists of ups and downs. As a coach, therapist and ordinary human being, I know that what many of us come to appreciate is the ability to maximise positive periods and minimise challenging ones. Life experience tells us that with this ability, the overall trajectory of our lives will be in the right direction when we realise that good times do follow bad ones and not just the other way around. If you recognise this reality, then my blog is for you.

How to understand and overcome depression

Depression is one of the most common forms of mental illness – maybe you have been depressed or know someone who has – and can be mild, moderate or severe. It is associated with various symptoms, such as negative thoughts, emptiness, irritability, and suicidal thoughts and actions in extreme cases. While there are different types of depression, the most common form is ‘reactive depression’, where someone experiences depression due to adverse and challenging life events such as divorce or redundancy. In this blog, I offer six different perspectives on reactive depression so you can better understand and overcome it.

Negative thinking and how to overcome it

Negative thinking refers to patterns of thinking negatively about who we are, what we do and the life we lead. Some negative thinking is normal and, as we shall see, helpful, but when it dominates, when the thoughts come thick and fast, it can often indicate an underlying mental health condition. This blog will offer you some ideas, perspectives and approaches to thinking about and overcoming ‘negative thinking’.

Self-care: 7 ways to practise it positively

As the importance of positive mental health and wellbeing becomes recognised more widely, so are the ways we can achieve it. One way is through self-care, a concept that has become both popular and significant. Self-care is an individual, conscious commitment to think, behave, feel and relate in ways that support our mental health and wellbeing. It is both intrapersonal, i.e. mental activity and interpersonal, i.e. relating to and involving other people. Self-care is more than just a spa day but a lifelong commitment, and in this post, I share seven ways you can practise it.

Workplace Burnout – Without The Boom!

Workplace burnout has become one of the mental health issues of our time, with estimates of around 50% of people in the UK experiencing it according to a recent Forbes article. Despite the seriousness of the condition, people can and do go on to make a complete recovery, and in this case study, I talk about my work with Emma (not her real name) and how my IMPACT Model enabled her to go from a very dark place to a very good one.

4 steps to a healthier lifestyle

Research statistics continue to show that many people in the UK have unhealthy lifestyles despite the government and other organisations spending vast sums on health promotion. What does this tell us? It tells us what we already know: that human beings are very susceptible to unhealthy lifestyles for many well-known reasons:

– A lack of awareness
– A lack of motivation
– A lack knowledge
– Stressful lives
And yet, many people ARE successfully achieving a healthier lifestyle. How they achieve this is the subject of this post.

Understanding emotions: solving the mystery

Often what motivates clients to contact a coach or therapist is that they cannot understand – make sense of – why things are as they are. They might know they are stuck or in difficulty, but the ‘why’ is shrouded in mystery. Before seeking professional support, clients will often spend a lot of time trying to work things out by themselves or with their existing support network. This often results in a wild goose chase of looking in all the wrong places. Exhausted and demoralised, they pick up the phone to a coach or therapist.

What if there was an easier way to make sense of why things are as they are? Well, there is an easier way: understanding emotions, which is the subject of this post and extract from my upcoming book How To Transform Your Life With IMPACT: Unlock The Best Of You.

How to have great therapy

When someone decides to speak to a therapist, they are commenting on their existing conversations, and that is, they are not making the difference they are after. If they were, they wouldn’t be talking to the therapist. The reason therapists exist is to give us what our existing support network can’t or won’t. A client leaving a therapy session must be able to say, ‘That was exactly what I needed. No one I know could or would have talked to me that way.’

A therapist’s job is to give someone a Conversation With Impact because only these result in the personal breakthroughs we need to achieve good mental health and wellbeing. In this post, I look at how you can make sure your therapist does this for you.